Liar Liar....Your Dating Style is on Fire

There are three kinds of liars in the dating world. Liars who lie to appear more appealing to their date and the liar who will sit there lying to themselves as they force themselves to like their date because it's the most action they have got all year. Then of course, we may be all a little guilty of this...at the end of the date the dater may even end in a little white lie, such as: "Ok, well I really must be off, my grandmother is sick and I promised I would see her, and she goes to bed quite early...so you understand?" ..."But you said your only living relative is your older brother who lives with the Tibetan monks in Nepal?"

But do liars have better dating success?

If we think of it as a game - you are in the middle on the dating arena, you are open and interested in seeing who is out there. You will come across people you like, some people you cannot make your mind up about and some people you want to gnaw your own ears off. In order to stay active in the game, you need to sift through the undesirable in order to increase your chances of success. This process requires the dater to manoeuvre their way in the dating area (accepting and rejecting) where they still appear to be charming and sensitive; I.e. you need to be good at lying. You need a rehearsed plan which accommodates for plan A. (the date goes really well but you might play hard to get so you pretend you have plans when they call you 3 days later) Plan B. (you are unsure if you want to see R. or J. on Saturday night so you tell them you might have something on and will get back to them asap - or whenever you finally decide which is more desirable) and plan C. (when the date went terribly and you need to lie to be kind...for example; "It's not you...It's me"). Without these lies, how can a dater juggle the demands of the game?

A well constructed lie can save a dater's reputation for sure.

For some people the game is more fun than actually finding someone to one day put down as your 'person to call in an emergency'. These people, 'player's' stay in the game for longer than they should and normally come out of it wrinkly - just like being in a bath too long.

At the end of the day, dating is game, a dance, a risk taking and vulnerable adventure and it is most likely that people will lie, hopefully mainly to protect themselves or to be kind to a fellow 'sensitive' or 'bruised' dater. It's a jungle out there!


Loyalties Of Life by Christal A is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Non-Commercial-No Derivative Works 2.5 Australia License.
Based on a work at loyaltiesoflife.blogspot.com.