You need to have at least established the following:
a) the other person turned up
b) you didn't call/or be called by the wrong name (your ex or their last date's name)
c) you didn't throw up on someone or have any other involuntary explosion of bodily fluids
d) neither of you seem to be or are inspired to become axe wielding psychopaths.
However, you can have a 'good date' yet neither of you contact each other...is it just as black and white as Greg Behrendt (aka the 'he's just not that into you' guy) suggests?
Ideally you have:
a) connected in a way beyond the normal 'so yeah..you're a PA, how fascinating, how did you get into that?' conversation.
b) you laughed and found yourself smiling throughout the date
c) you were sad to see the date end and you both hinted that you are both looking forward to seeing each other again soon
....but then, nothing!
After chatting with single friends and going on a few dates myself over the years - I think it goes beyond you both not being that into each other. I accidentally found myself on a date a little while ago. He was charming, funny, intelligent and interesting. We got along well and talked for hours about everything from religion, travelling, science, life experiences, ideologies and so on. Yet, after the date had finished, the spark had also died out. It was if, that 'date' was just for the hell of it as neither of us thought to pursue another one. I have later found out that he was moving overseas two weeks later and did not want to start something which might prove impossible; and I realised that I did not call was because it was also bad timing for me as well (the word 'relationship' makes me want to go into witness protection and work as a dressed up cartoon character and hand out badly written fliers).
So what happens with those perfect dates? Do you go back and salvage them when the timing is right?
Perhaps not.
Maybe we all need a 'perfect' date every now and then. As single people we feel the pressure to go on dates and meet new people; however the act of going on a date and having a fantastic time can also feed a hunger which is limited to having a perfect date. The satisfaction of having a great date may surpass the actual desire to become coupled up with another person. I know I felt happy to of had that successfully interesting and fun date, however I was not hungry for another one because that could potentially present a potentially confusing hiccup in my stagnated dating timeline. Maybe it is sometimes better to preserve that date and look back on it fondly as a great day and know you are capable of having a great time; and not giving in to pressure of pursuing a relationship just because you think you owe it to the perfect date.
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Loyalties Of Life by Christal A is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Non-Commercial-No Derivative Works 2.5 Australia License.
Based on a work at loyaltiesoflife.blogspot.com.
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